An Incomplete List of Things Men Have Said (and Done) to Me
And I’m far from the only one who’s experienced this.
Content note: sexual assault, verbal and physical abuse, drug use.
in thirty-seven years, men have:
grabbed my ass.
taken photos of me on public transit, as a teen and an adult.
flashed me.
hit me.
grabbed me.
yelled at me.
thrown things at me.
catcalled me on the street.
violated me.
assaulted me.
made me bleed.
cheated on me.
lied to me.
fetishized me.
fucked me.
drugged me.
touched me without asking.
gaslit me.
destroyed my self-esteem.
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they’ve said:
how old are you, sweetheart?
you look older than nineteen.
what my wife doesn’t know won’t hurt her.
this isn’t my first rodeo.
you’re nonmonogamous? wanna fuck?
i don’t need lube.
suck my dick.
get on your knees.
i’m going to call your mom and tell her what a fucking slut you are.
hey i’ve been thinking about you a lot.
i still want to get nasty with you, can you freak me out please.
you’re the best head i ever had.
i never knew how spoiled i was with you until i got married.
don’t tell anyone, okay?
if i paid for it, would you get a tattoo of my face?
what time do you get off?
wanna bump?
do a line off my cock.
but i’ve been buying you drinks all night, come back to my hotel.
nice tits.
nice ass.
you could lose a little weight.
that never happens.
i’ll eat your pussy if you shave first.
i’m sorry.
you deserved it.
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they’ve called me names:
slut.
loser.
whore.
fucking weirdo.
psycho.
bitch.
psycho bitch.
piss drinker (when they tricked me into drinking pee from a beer bottle at a party in high school).
sweetheart.
honey.
ma’am.
liar.
dyke.
a burden.
worthless.
heinous.
shameful.
disgusting.
pathetic.
attention-seeking.
fucking liar.
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all in the name of:
passion;
desire;
control;
power;
lust;
friendship;
love.